That Right Person...
Somebody
once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and very
wrong.....it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from
there...you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a
"right person" for you...and don't rush things....coz somewhere somehow
God is preparing somebody for you." You can never be
perfect...the person you love can never be perfect...but both of you can be
perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the
both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God.....that's
why we have marriage it's a bond not only between you and your loved
one....but also with God. Our relationships fail not because
(s)he's not the right person....it's because we expected too much and we
decided on our own....let God do the work...you may call it waiting
time....but while you are waiting...pray. Let God guide you
always...He knows better. No, He knows best. Love is not
what you think it is....Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first
relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with
joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some
are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying
oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others
are saying love is immortal and can never be defined. When we think
we're in love the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to
know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away
from us. We say this phrase "You are the most wonderful gift
from GOD I have ever received..." After a terrible fight or
sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "You are the biggest
mistake I’ve ever made for my entire life...!!!!". Now, how do you
say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?
Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and
whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises
like "Forever, Till Death do us apart, etc." would end up
"Never" and "We should part ways, I'm no longer happy with
you! My love for you is DEAD!!!". Many times we thought after having
committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero
degree "S/He ain't the right one. I should probably wait for the
right one to come." But the big question anyone could not
answer is "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the
right time?" That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always
be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit? A
big YES is the answer. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship
because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into
it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings,
to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.
You're right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but
there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you
already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt,
don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you
have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not
last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences
and live like hell the rest of your life. It's really hard to
say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just
pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and
give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a
chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will
find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by
yourself. More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical
manner for some reason. We call it love when we can't leave someone
and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, its just pity. We
call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love
will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We
misunderstood, its just that we're too much dependent to them. We call it love
when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if
they leave no one would accept us and our past. We are
mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the
truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg. It is
real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your
heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least
expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but
don't forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the
whole galaxy.
note: credit to the author
